Showing posts with label Stress Management. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Stress Management. Show all posts

Use Gratitude to Combat Stress

Feeling stressed?

In the Psalms, we repeatedly see signs of David’s grateful heart. It was this perspective that allowed him to persevere in his many times of trouble and to accomplish wonderful things for the kingdom of God. Adopting an attitude of gratitude in the midst of ...Read More

The Power of Yielding

Nearly 6 million cubic feet of water careens over the edge to the boulders below giving the iconic scenery of Niagra Falls both its beauty and energy. There are actually two falls as the Niagra river splits around Goat Island creating waterfalls on both the Canadian and American sides. The force of the water is so great that the crest of the falls has receded nearly 7 miles from where it first began.



We visited the falls on our 25th anniversary and took a boat ride to the base. The power of the falling water resonated through our bodies while the sound deafened our ears. It was truly breathtaking.



Waterfalls are not alone in molding our landscape. The might of waves shape the coastlines of our planet from the shores of east Africa to the coast of California. The vigor of rivers carves canyons as vast as the Grand Canyons of the Colorado River in the United States to the Great Canyon of Yarlung Tsangpo River in Tibet. Yet with all the influence water has to transform the environment, it is powerless by itself. The source of its strength is simply that it yields completely to gravity.



There is a greater source of power in the world than gravity--the One who formed it all. But often I find myself operating as if I were the source of strength for my life and the tasks God has called me to. And when I do, inevitably I falter. I imagine I'm not alone. 


Living a yielded life is living a life in obedience to God. Jesus provides us with a perfect model of this level of obedience. By emulating the nature of water we become more Christ-like and better tools for the kingdom. God is more concerned with our willingness than our ability. What He calls you and I to do, He will equip us for.





Message for the journey:

Imagine the change we could affect on the world around us if we, like water, fully yielded and let God's unlimited power work through us.




©Ann Wilds





original post-2011

Don't Lose Your Marbles- Develop Your Stress Management Skills Part 2

We’re in the middle of a three-part series on developing stress management skills. 
 Click here to read Part 1


In the game of Marbles, the smoothest balls shoot the best. The more one is used the rougher its surface becomes. This creates friction and drag decreasing the distance and accuracy the marble can be shot. In turn, this diminishes the player’s ability to win the game. A wise competitor is careful not to overuse theirs.

This is also sound advice for playing our life game of Marbles. It’s the wise person who refrains from overusing their energy stores. Today we'll consider two basic ways to conserve yourself and decrease your stress level. By developing this next set of skills you'll be able hold on to your marbles, extending both the quality and length of your game.  

·       Consider the Season: You may be able to do everything, but you can’t do it all at the same time. There are seasons in life when some things need to take precedence while others take a back seat. You may be able to work and have children and volunteer and go to school and write that novel but likely you can’t do them all well at the same time. Going back to school may have to wait until the kids are a little older, or you might need to work part-time for a season.

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.
Ecclesiastes 3:1

·       Don’t Over Commit: You are of no good to anyone if you can’t give your full support. It’s not a sin to say “no” when someone asks you to help with another committee or project, if it’s not something you are called to do. You cannot have all of your shooters out at one time and still be in the game.  

Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. 
                                                                     Ephesians 5:15-17


God doesn't want you to be stressed out or anxious. His desire for you is to live a life of peace regardless of the circumstance. The more you apply the stress management skills found in the Word, the more at peace you'll be.


Join in next week for the conclusion of this series. Until then, keep practicing your stress management skills and hanging on to your marbles.   

Don't Lose Your Marbles- Increase Your Stress Management Skills

Children have played with marbles for years. No matter which version of the game they play, the ultimate goal is the same- to hold on to their marbles. Any player that loses all of theirs is out of the game. So it is with life.

More and more, stress is a part of our everyday world. We live in a busy age filled with multiple demands pulling us in many different directions. Whether from projects at work, responsibilities at home, activities with the kids, homework, church groups, service missions—it all adds up. Sometimes life gets so hectic, the stress becomes overwhelming. When you find yourself plagued by stress, you may begin to feel that you’re losing your marbles.  
            What often gets people into trouble? For many of us, it is not having a realistic understanding of how much we can actually do. Just as a car can only go so far on a single gallon of gas, our productivity is limited by our energy level. The amount of energy we have is finite: we can’t use what we don’t have. To understand this concept further, let’s look at our energy as if it were the bag of marbles we fear we may be losing. 

The Value of Marbles:

When God created us, He gave us our individual bag. We can’t stretch it or make it any bigger- the size is fixed. In the bag, we place our marbles—little round balls of energy. We can keep a few marbles in the bag or we can fill it to the top. The choice is ours.
            It’s true that some people are naturally more high energy than others. Yet, no matter which type we are by nature, we can still maximize the amount of energy marbles we keep in our bag. How long we can last, how much we can do, depends on how many we have on hand to play the game of life with. The more we keep in our bag, the better our position to counter the everyday effects of stress. Over the next three weeks, we’ll look at different stress management steps to help us hold on to all of our marbles. 
            The first step is to build up strength by maximizing energy stores in preparation of what will come. To do so, consider the following:


·       Focus on the Positive: Nothing depletes energy faster than a negative attitude. Its effect drains you and those around you as well. Focusing on an attitude of gratitude, in turn, has the opposite effect. It consistently increases energy levels.  Keeping a gratitude journal or a short list of things you’re grateful for in clear view is an easy way to help keep focused on gratefulness. Avoiding negative people will help you hold on to the energy you have.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.  Philippians 4:8

·       Healthy Lifestyle: When our minds and bodies are healthy, we naturally have more energy. Want more energy stores? Eat foods that are nutritious, maintain moderate activity and drink plenty of water. This doesn’t need to be taken to the extreme. Any change toward a healthier lifestyle will bring benefit. 

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

·       Start Off Right: How we begin each morning, sets the tone for the remainder of the day. Feed both your body and your soul at the start.  Engage with God through prayer, praise or time in His word. This will plug you in to the ultimate power source and supercharge your marbles. Studies consistently show a nutritious breakfast is the single best way for both children and adults to begin with increased energy and improved performance. (Not to mention that skipping breakfast is linked to weight gain—who wants that?) Do both everyday and consistently add to your cache.

Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where He prayed.  Mark 1:35

Join in next week for part 2 in our series. Until then, begin practicing these first three tips. I’d love to hear how they are working for you.  

Breath of Life

the Lord God formed the man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.
Genesis 2:7

Breathing is something we do without thinking. In fact, it comes so automatically that we rarely pay it any attention at all. Yet, it’s the very source of life.


When we inhale, oxygen is drawn into our lungs then distributed to the rest of our body. Eighty percent of the blood vessels used to take in oxygen are located in the lower portion of our lungs, yet many of us fail to breathe in a way that fully sustains our system. Studies of cardiac patients find nearly 100% are shallow breathers. The less oxygen our organs receive the harder they have to work. To make matters worse, when we are under stress we breathe even less effectively.


Try this:
  • Pick two points on the far side of the room, one on the right and one on the left. Got them? On the count of 1 shift your eyes to the left point and on 2 shift your eyes to the right point. Repeat this for seven counts of 1 & 2. Ready? Go!

How’d you do? It may not have been a difficult task but did you notice what happened to your breathing? If you’re like most people, you held your breath; it’s the common response when we concentrate on a task.


Under stress our mind reacts as if under attack, automatically preparing our body to either run or fight. This once served us well, but in modern times the danger is much less physical than emotional. Unfortunately, our body’s response is the same, diverting oxygen from less important areas while sending it to those needed to evade the danger. Interestingly, this includes diverting oxygen from the brain- the very thing needed to remain calm.


A useful tool to help manage stress is to learn abdominal diaphragmatic breathing or belly breathing for short. Rest one hand on your stomach and breathe in slowly. As you do, breathe in deeply enough to raise the hand as you inhale and lower it as you exhale. Master this skill and you’ll have a simple but effective tool to lower your stress response.


Mother was right; a few deep breaths when you're upset really can calm you down.




Message for the Journey: 

When you find yourself in one of life' stressful situations, what happens with your breathing can often determine how well you manage the situation. Breathe in deeply- taking in God’s love and peace - while exhaling the tension and strife.  You'll be better prepared to remain in His joy as you face the next step along your journey.



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Grab a Telescope Not a Microscope

     The girl looked at her reflection in the mirror. She was happy with what she saw. Her hair was shiny. Her skin was smooth. And her smile was bright. She was happy, that is, until she turned the mirror to the magnified side. There she saw only the ragged split ends of her hair, cavernous pores upon her face and crooked yellow teeth. In a split second her pleasure changed to depression. Seeing herself magnified up-close, this beautiful girl couldn’t imagine anyone seeing her as anything but grotesque.


     The girl’s story seems extreme, yet, much of the stress we feel in life is caused by a similar distorted outlook. We completely lose sight of the big picture as we narrow our attention on the perceived defects in or around us. A co-worker not responding when we greet them in the hall becomes confirmation that no one likes us. A car cutting us off in traffic becomes disrespect warranting rage. An unexpected visit from a friend becomes an evaluation of our self-worth based on the cleanness level of our home.

     The feeling of stress is not caused by events that happen to us but is the result of our perception of those events. The way we view things has a tremendous impact on our ability to cope. We all experience stress in our lives yet some are more resilient than others and much of that difference is found in the view we choose. When we come under stress, a critical step is to take inventory of our thoughts to determine if we are looking at the situation with a balanced perspective or through intense magnification. We maintain a healthy outlook when we choose a wide-angled telescope instead of a microscope; for with it we see the event in perspective, not losing the bigger picture, while keeping our focus on heaven. So the next time you’re feeling stressed, check and see. Did you grab your telescope or your microscope?

Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Hebrews 12:2