Don't Fear Detours



Have you ever been happily making progress on a trip only to find yourself delayed by an unexpected detour? Recently, a friend and her father were traveling on the Houston freeway when they were detoured to the feeder road. The detour forced them to add time to their journey with slower speed limits and stops at traffic lights. Although, they didn't know why they were detoured, they trusted it and made it successfully to their intended destination.

Later, they discovered the reason for the detour. A large truck had become entangled with an overhead sign shutting down freeway traffic in both directions. Had they refused to be detoured and kept instead to their intended road, they would have been trapped for hours, as many others were, unmoving, hot and frustrated.

In life, we too can find our chosen path riddled with unanticipated detours. They may concern our careers, our finances, our health or our relationships. But come they will. My life has been filled with them the last ten years.   

A major detour in my corporate career came unexpectedly and honestly, very painfully. Yet had it not come, I would not have been able to step down from management to work part-time. It was a great decision. The flexibility it brought has allowed me to be more involved in my daughter's school, to join the choir, to volunteer and to spend more time with my family. It greatly reduced the stress level in our home. At the time, I didn't know why I was being detoured but I was wise enough to trust the one who guides my steps.

When we married, our planned path didn't include being part of the sandwich generation, caring both for aging parents and children at the same time. But we accepted the detour when it came. What we weren't prepared for was the extremely bumpy, difficult path of living with someone with dementia.  It's a detour we'd rather not be on, but still we travel it as best we can, clinging to the belief that it is God's will for us right now.

Sometimes, the detours are ones we struggle against, finding it difficult to yield. My husband's health has taken our family on a detour. The path has had many twists and turns, with more to come, but we hold to a trust in God that it will be used for good.  

Just as detours can take you down roads with beautiful views you didn't know were there, all of my life's detours have brought me to a path of unforessen reward. When God unexpectedly called me to a writing and speaking ministry, I was able to answer because of the detours He had already led me on.  No where in my plans would I have been writing words intended to aid you in your Christian journey.  He had been preparing me ahead of time. 

You can plan your life, but you might find yourself on a detour. It you do, remember it has a purpose--leading you safely to your intended destination. Don't be discouraged by the reasons you can't see. Just as Jamie and her dad trusted the detour, trust in the One with a heavenly view. He sees things so much more clearly than we do on the ground. 

A man's heart plans his ways, but the Lord directs his steps. 
Psalms 16:19



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How to Correct Your Vision

Part of our daughter's back to school preparations included a sports physical along with a vision exam. Her sight is excellent at 20/15. Once my vision was equally as good, but after college  I became nearsighted. The good news is that it is easily corrected. I slip in my contacts or put on my glasses and my vision is perfect again. My husband's vision, on the other hand, is shifting to farsighted. To read small print, he either needs reading glasses or longer arms. 

Did you know that in addition to our physical vision, we each have spiritual sight as well? The clarity of it defines how we look at life.  

Are You Nearsighted? 

A nearsighted vision sees only our immediate situation. It  desires immediate gratification and is easily distressed when circumstances are less than perfect. It's characterized by emotional extremes. When things go well, it's upbeat and ready to tackle the world. But when trials come, it slips readily into fear and anxiety.  Nearsightedness reflects a sight that is focused on today.    


 "Then Jesus said to his disciples: 'Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear.' Luke 12:22

Are You Farsighted?

At first glance, farsightedness seems more healthy. It focuses less on our immediate surroundings by keeping our sight set on what lies ahead. But with it we easily overlook the immediate needs around us and forget to appreciate the joys of the now. It fails to appreciate the present. Farsightedness reflects a sight that is focused on someday.    

 "do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interest of others." Phil. 2:4


Perfect Vision

Yet, no matter which vision deficit we have, we can correct it by putting on God's glasses. Through the lens of His word and the Holy Spirit, we are given perfect sight.  We see the needs around us and are moved to action. We live in the moment appreciating God's gifts and sharing love and joy. Regardless of circumstances, we never lose sight of the perfect future we are assured. Through faith, we remain confident that He controls all things ultimately for good. 


Message for the Journey:

When your spiritual vision gets clouded and you lose sight of what is truly important, put on your spiritual glasses and see the world through God's eyes. What your flesh can not see, His word and the Spirit will reveal to you. 

 "Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law." Psalm 119:18


Prepared for Back to School

It's hard to believe, but it's already time for school to begin again. And it's even harder to believe that we'll have a high schooler in our house. Over the past few weeks, we've been gathering all the things she needs to prepare for the year: clothes to replace those she's outgrown, new uniforms for sports, and a backpack to carry the ton of supplies purchased.


While we prepare our kids for school, we need to also prepare them for battle. As they roam the halls, temptations of many kinds will be roaming after them seeking to claim them. We can help prepare them for the challenges to come through prayer, discussing Biblical truths, and helping them memorize scripture--planting God's word in their hearts and minds.


One way to help them recall verses is to write them down in places they can readily see them. A bathroom mirror is a great place to write notes of affirmation and verses with a dry erase marker. You can also slip notes in lunches or books.

Another idea is to use notebooks and folders with pre-printed scripture like this DaySprings assortment. It includes binders, notebooks and pocket folders and comes in several collections to choose from. We are using the God Recycles set. Each time your child takes one out for class, their heart and mind will be refreshed with a scripture.



Let's not just prepare our kids for back to school, let's prepare them with a purpose.

Disclosure: Daysprings provided me with a free collection in exchange for this review. All opinions stated concerning the product are my own..


Reset Your Default Setting

Recently, we purchased a new laptop computer. It replaced one we'd had for a number of years that was on its last leg. Many of the programs and settings are very different than before, so it's taking a while to adjust to it.


All computers have an internal operating system that manages its internal workings. In essence, the system tells the computer how to behave. Within it are thousands of parameters guiding the system. They come preset from the manufacturer. The original settings are able to be modified by the user to better meet his needs. However, the default can be restored should the computer begin to malfunction. This is one of the steps we tried when my original laptop began to give us problems.


Have you ever had days where everything around you affected you in a negative way? The other morning began like any other, but quickly took a turn. During breakfast, I read an article in the newspaper about an unjust situation. It left me irritated. As we were getting dressed, my husband accidentally shut off the light in the room that I was using. This irritated me more. Then on my commute, a slow moving car was blocking the flow of traffic. As I felt my frustration level rising rapidly, my inner voice called out a warning to stop.


What had happened? In a very short period of time, I'd gone from being serene and focused on God to annoyed at everyone. I had allowed my internal default to change to a negative setting. To correct it, I had to intentionally reset it.


I've had to work to control my natural tendency to allow what happens in the morning to impact my attitude the rest of the day. When we were first married, I'd wake up in either a neutral or happy mood. My husband, however, was not a morning person. He could be quite a grouch before his morning coffee. If he was negative towards me, I'd find myself irritated at least half the day. But after his cup, he'd feel good the rest of the day. Over the years, we've both intentionally worked to change our morning setting.


Like computers, we come from our Manufacturer with a preset internal default. God created it to be a Christ-like one. By design, however, this setting too can be modified by the user. At times, we intentionally change it-seduced by the world into believing that a different setting will better suit our needs and serve us better. At others, we allow circumstances to control it. Whatever the cause, when our default changes, we function less fully and effectively then designed.


The good news is that our default setting can always be reset to it's original design parameters. All you need do is:

1. Be cognizant of your attitude. It will clearly show your default setting. If it's not reflecting the fruits of the Spirit, it's not Christ-like.

You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. (Philippians 2:5)
2. Decide to make a change. The first step to changing your attitude is a willingness to do so. Ask God to help you replace it with a right one.

Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. (Ephesians 4:23)
3. Consciously and intentionally reset yourself. Remind yourself that, as a child of God's, you are better than an unhealthy attitude. Focus your thoughts on goodness. You'll have a better day and serve God better.

For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. If you serve Christ with this attitude, you will please God, and others will approve of you, too. (Romans 14:17-18)

Message for the Journey:

When your attitude default shifts to an unhealthy one, intentionally reset it back to the Manufacturer's original specifications. Change your attitude and you'll change your life.


Those who live only to satisfy their own sinful nature will harvest decay and death from that sinful nature. But those who live to please the Spirit will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit. (Galatians 6:8)
©AnnWilds2011


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